Last week, I posted my first Motivation Monday quote. I am still working through a lot at the moment, so I thought that I would share another one of my favourite quotes with you this week because it’s very top of mind in my life right now. Recently, we had a health scare with B. I spent over a week completely stressed out, physically sick with worry, and crying countless tears. B has already been through so much (which is a post I am going to write soon) and I couldn’t stand the thought of him having to deal with anything else. It turned out to be nothing, thank God, which made me really examine my response to the situation and how I can do better next time.
My worry did absolutely nothing to improve B’s situation. In fact, all it did was cause him to have anxiety because he could tell that his mama was upset. I wasted so many hours worrying about something that didn’t even happen. If I stop and think about how many hours over the course of my life that I have spent obsessing over and analysing “what if” situations that never come to fruition, it would be an astronomical figure. And it needs to stop. I am not doing my health and overall wellness any favours by putting my body through needless stress and there are some situations in life that we simply have no control over. My new approach is to worry about things as I need to and not a second before.
My regular readers know much my dad meant to me and March marks the anniversary of losing him. I can clearly hear him telling me to let things go, to stop worrying, to enjoy the present moment, and to just focus on being happy. His wish for me is something that I am going to really focus on doing for him because I know how happy it would make him if I was able to just relax. My husband is so much like my dad (one of the many reasons I committed my life to being with him) and he is always echoing my dad’s advice. He will say, “babe, there is nothing that we can do about this right now and it might not even happen. Let’s deal with it when we need to. I love you, now please stop.” And I am finally going to listen!
I am going to let you in on a secret: a few weeks ago, my company did some restructuring and I lost my job. I fully confess to being a ball of worry for the first week, but I’ve changed my thinking about the situation. I actively tell myself that I need to focus on the things that I can control (networking, applying for jobs, getting objective advice, and updating my skill set) and that I can’t worry about when I will find a job. Real talk: I’m 29 years old and I have a lot of years ahead of me to work. It’s a matter of “when” I find a new job and not “if.”
So, until that fateful day when I walk into my new company to start the next phase of my career, I am going to spend my time searching for my next gig (and it’s going to be a great one!), enjoying the beautiful weather on long walks with B, working out twice a day, and cooking healthy creations in the kitchen. I can hardly believe it myself, but I honestly feel relaxed about my situation and I am not obsessing over it. If you change your thinking, you will change your life. If I can do it, so can you!
Confession time: are you a worry wart?